How many times have you had someone try and give you advice that you never asked for??? It happens over and over again. Especially if you’re a parent, and consistently if you’re a new parent. Family, friends, and even strangers always seem to provide unwarranted advice, that is often times, unhelpful. As a young mom, the advice I received from my own mother, was very helpful at times. But then there was that “other” advice that was just her trying to make me into the parent that she was. Or there was that advice from every other mother I knew that I never asked for.
I’m not saying that I don’t appreciate, or didn’t appreciate, the helpful words but I needed to learn somethings on my own. Just thinking of some of the times I was alone with my children and figured something out on my own, those were major wins for me. I not only was able to get something accomplished, but I felt accomplished. I felt like a real mom.
I think sometimes as parents, we think the advice that we have to offer is the right advice but what works for my kids, may not work for another person’s kids. Moms, dads, grandmas and grandpas, aunts and uncles, etc. lose sight of that. They think that the knowledge they have to offer is the only option and the person on the receiving end should just be grateful. While I believe in respecting our elders and listening to advice, I don’t believe that someone has the answer simply because they are older.
Just remember, they are your kids. You know and feel what is right for them. If you don’t, then ask for advice. But if someone offers you advice that you never asked for, just simply thank them. But remember, you don’t have to follow that advice. That mom instinct is a real thing, you’ll figure it out. Just have faith in your mom superpowers, they are magical and so are you!