I was pregnant with my first child by the age of 16 and a mom by the age of 17. She was unexpected and there was so many obstacles. I had no idea where to start and even looking back today, I somehow wonder how exactly I made it through all of that.
During that time, I heard so much negativity from everyone including family and friends. I was still in high school and people counted me out as if my life was basically over. At the time, I’ll admit that I was scared and worried about what I was going to do. I had no job, no education (yet), no car, and no one to really count on at the time.
Eventually, I would finish school, maintain employment, and provide for my 2 children at the time. It took a lot of hard work, restless nights, tears and prayer, but I made it through, despite all of the negativity that I endured.
My advice to a young mom who may be dealing with a similar situation is you do what is best for you and your little one. People are going to count you out, talk negative about you, and there will be tons of obstacles. There will also be the people that you think you can count on but are really the ones hoping you fail. You’ll endure countless conversations about what you should do or what you were supposed to do, but none of that matters.
What matters is you and your little one(s). What matters is your sanity. If they aren’t there to help you, then you have to distant yourself from those toxic people. Lean on those that have proven they are truly there for you. Those that are trying to uplift you. Those that are trying to help you. These people do exist, but you will have to find them. They may not necessarily be the same people you deal with everyday either.
I’d also say, it’s not the end of the world. Being a young mom doesn’t define you. It’s not the end of your story. Only the beginning. I would have never believed I’d accomplish as much in my life as I have after having a child at the age of 17, but I did.
Stay positive and stay strong. Work hard but enjoy life. Don’t dwell on the small things and don’t let negativity get the best of you. My oldest is 20 and we practically grew up together. Can’t imagine my life without her but I know that she will be on her own soon enough and I’ll miss her. But I wouldn’t change a thing about when she came into my life and I wouldn’t change anything about my life.